As the journey of a new year begins, I take the time to
reflect on my past; the things I’ve lost, and the things I’ve gained. Moving forward, it is my hope that both will
lead me ultimately to where I want to be…despite the fact that I am not able to thoroughly define where that place is at this time.
Nearly two years ago, in February of 2011, I made a choice
to become a better person. Not for
myself, but for my children. I am a
single mother, who was raised by a poor single mother, who was also born to a
poor single mother. I am not proud of my heritage. Therefore, I do not wish the same
for my daughters. They say that this
life I live is an endless cycle but I am determined to break this cycle so that
my daughters may have an opportunity to start a new one. And so, I have embarked on a journey of
introspection, focusing on meditation and philosophy, to help me to better
understand how I may achieve my goal.
I have learned much about me since this journey began. My most compelling revelations have come with
recognizing and making an effort to understand my flaws and my weaknesses—those
things that prohibit me in being who I truly want to be.
I began this blog with a very rigid post in which I
attempted to define precisely what it means to be a better person. With time, and with help from friends and
strangers alike; all of whom I note do care for me no less; I find myself
closer to understanding what it means.
Becoming a better person means that I must learn to stand by
the conviction of principal. Not for
myself, but to defend the needs of those who are not able—if not for lack of
courage, for lack of wisdom or for lack of opportunity—to stand for
themselves. To be a better person, is to
learn to live for others.
In 2013, I have also learned these very important things:
1.
It is more important to listen than it is to speak.
2.
It is important to speak up for what is right, good,
just, moral, fair, Godly…
3.
Just because something is acceptable, does not make it
right, or good, or just, or moral, or fair, or Godly…
4.
Very rarely do people say what they mean or mean what
they say. Don’t expect others to say
what needs to be said…it is important to say what needs to be said.
5.
Virtue is not a measure of how other people see me. It is a careful balance of all things that
make me human. As such, all things in
time and everything in it’s place.
6.
People will always judge me. It is important to learn to accept judgment
with humility.
7.
It’s almost impossible to tell the difference between
anger and pain.
8.
Love, is not a spoken language.
9.
No one will ever be able to walk in my shoes. It is important to learn to accept, that no
one will ever know what it is like to walk in my shoes.
10.
Don’t ever look for sympathy because empathy finds me
when I need it.
11.
We live in a time where knowledge and wisdom are
available for all who desire them. As
such, ignorance is not acceptable.
12.
It does not hurt to help others. It does not hurt to give to others. It does not hurt to care for others.
13.
People need people.
14.
A wise man receives instruction.
15.
God is real.
Moving onward to 2014, I have decided that these principals
are key in keeping of my resolutions
(which I may or may not post later).
I want to say to people; before your decide to begin anew, understand
what it means to do so. Don't go about telling yourself lies, promising
yourself things that you full well know that you are not prepared to deliver
on. There is a difference in when others break our hearts, and when we
break our own hearts. Neither is acceptable. Letting go of hurt and
the things that hurt us is not an easy thing to do, but it's totally doable. But we must be just as prepared to protect our hearts as we are to heal our hearts. So take care of your hearts in 2014...and your hearts will take care of
you.
I wish for you all, peace, happiness, love, comfort and growth.
Cheers to 2014...Happy new year!!
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