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A few weeks ago, I thought about this blog. Earlier in the year I had promised myself
that I would make it an annual thing.
But this past year was a bit rough and I found myself seriously
wondering; ‘did I learn anything this year?’ There is always a lesson in life but sometimes we have to
remember to stop and let it sink in…
This coming year, I anticipate some significant changes to
take place not just in my life but also around my life. I would be lying if I said that I was totally
prepared. In a way, it’s very scary
knowing that things will change. It’s
scary not knowing how much more you can take.
But over the past few years I learned that the only real courage comes
from facing our own fears. That moment
when you realize that things weren’t as scary as you imagined or that you
weren’t as weak as you thought you would be, is priceless.
I will also be taking these valuable lessons from 2014 to
2015:
1. There is always a lesson in life, but sometimes
we have to remember to stop and let it sink in. (Yes, I just said that.)
“All that we are is the result of
what we have thought. The mind is
everything. What we think, we become.” ~ Buddha
3. There’s a reason why some say that patience is
the greatest virtue that a man can possess!
It’s certainly not easy to achieve.
And in 2014, one thing that I’ve learnt very well is how to be
IMPATIENT! Lol. None the less, all
things in time, and everything in its place.
Some things take longer to come but desire can never be fulfilled with
impatience. It’s very easy to lose
ourselves in a moment. On a more
positive note; in seeking patience, I’ve learned to live with anger. Yes, I said live with. Anger is an emotion just as every other
emotion that builds inside of us and moves with the changes around us. Like love, we can choose to suppress it or dispel
it, but it will always be there to grow again.
How we choose to dispel it is a more complex question of character. Some flowers take longer to bloom. And that’s perfectly acceptable. The lesson is simply to keep moving forward.
4. Accept all things as they are and not as you
wish them to be. All things - as I am - are
forever changing. I don’t hold myself in
contempt for changing so I should not hold anyone else in contempt for
changing. We choose our own paths, and
make our own destiny. Love others, for
their change.
5. Friendship is the greatest illusion of
humankind. There have been a lot of ups
and downs in 2014 surrounding this ‘friendship’ thing. At some point I began to ask myself, “Does it
even matter?” No, it doesn’t. People, for the most part, are all the
same. We all have good days and bad
days. We all have things we like, things we love and things we simply don’t
care for. We all have ideals and some
(hopefully most) of us have standards.
The thing that we do wrong with friendship is set expectations of other
people. Friendship, like love, should be
unconditional. There will be days when people walk out of your life
unexpectedly, but there are also days when people walk into your life
unexpectedly. If we’re all headed in the
same direction, nothing says we have to take the same path to get there. Even if we’re not headed in the same
direction, nothing says we can’t walk a while together. You want friends who make you feel good –
your friends want friends who make them feel good. The other person is not always the one who’s
wrong, sometimes you are. We can only control
what we put out there, not anyone else.
The lesson; that’s life, deal with it.
6. With respect to lesson #5: ‘Haters’ is the second greatest illusion of
humankind! Lol. That’s life, deal with
it!
7. Don’t make excuses. Recognize your wrong doing. Acknowledge your wrong doing. Apologize for your wrong doing. Accept criticism for your wrong doing. It makes you wiser.
8. Don’t be ashamed to rise to someone else’s
expectations…but never fall to them.
Pride is a savory virtue, there’s no harm in appeasing the positive
visions of another person’s heart. It
makes you stronger.
9. Bond with others. Allow others to bond with you. Two minds are
wiser than one…and two hearts are stronger than one.
10. God is real.
As I continue, forward always, the journey is not always
easy. Some days I feel lost and
confused. Other days I look back and
wonder what if I had chosen otherwise?
But each day, no matter how dark and weary it had been I remind myself
to never give up on me. Happiness is not
a goal, it’s a result. It is the result
of doing what I know is best for me without expecting anything in return. Positivity comes from within. Not everyone will accept well what is
positive in me. People will always
expect for other people to be a reflection of who they are. But there remains a sacred empowerment in
introspection that I’m simply not willing to let go of.
One circle is complete so another one can begin as we roll
on into infinity.
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Cheers to 2015!
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